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The Dating Scene: How to Meet Men and Women

Amaga — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 05:13:02 +0000

Or How to Find that Special Someone
I am probably not the only one to have heard ten thousand times male friends and relatives complaining about not finding Ms. Right to date. Ten thousand times I was tempted to ask whether they have really been actively looking for her and not just sitting around and waiting for her to appear by magic.

Don’t hurry to judge me, because this is certainly not the case with me hating all men on earth and looking for the least of mistakes to criticize them. No, this is not the case. I’ve also seen a lot of women moaning about the same thing, but my opinion is that once you want something, you can’t just stay and wait, you got to do something to reach it. So, if you want to find that special someone, get up and go for it.
Now let’s think about the best ways to find Mr. or Ms. Right. One of the most popular places for meeting both women and men are bars. There’s just one little problem about it: it works out only with those who are already used to frequently visiting bars. If you’re not used to them, then you’ll probably be nervous, because you won’t be comfortable with the place you are in and thus you will only frighten out all the possible dates. So, the chances to meet someone special are reduced to the minimum. It’s as simple as that.
There also are other places where you could meet new people, such as: concerts, movie theaters, bookstores, coffee shops and so on. It’s just a matter of you usually visiting these places. One of my friends, for example, has met his wife at a coffee shop they both liked to visit regularly; another friend of mine has met Her in a… library. There is also Jack, one of my fellows, who has met Alice, his wife now, on an online dating service. He just went online and signed up for it. Nowadays, dating online services are the easiest and most popular way of meeting someone and there are a lot of good sites to choose from (Match.com, eHarmony.com, Yahoo! Personals, Date.com and many others). Dating services have helped a lot of people and they really work out for you. First, you upload information about you, your interests, your personality, upload your photos on the site. Then, you are matched up with a man or a woman, you can communicate over the phone or email until you decide to meet that person face to face. Or you can just meet right away.
You can meet someone by another method too, that is to write an interesting and attractive ad and have it published in your local newspaper. It’s only matter of paying some money to publish it. And if you are nervous about your looks or something like that, forget it! There are a lot of people out there who are just worried about it as you are.
Now let’s think about what you could write in your ad to attract more people. This will be some personal information. Something like: “Single 25-years-old Guy. Hobbies: Working, Watching Movies and Reading Books. Doesn’t smoke.” wouldn’t work out a lot for you, believe me. Do you agree?
But what if we write another version of this ad? Something like: “Single mid 20′s Dude; Swimming Instructor; Loves Adventure Books and Movies. Doesn’t smoke.” Now, what about that? Sounds a bit more interesting, doesn’t it?
In all the cases: whether you meet that special someone through an ad in the newspaper or whether you don’t, you will still have fun and meet new people.
If you are willing to meet Ms. or Mr. Right, that could make you happy with love for the rest of your life, don’t just stay, search the world for that and take some action .Looking for a man? Go into places, where men usually are. Looking for a woman? Go to social places women usually visit.
And a last word: if something goes wrong, remember the saying, “Don’t worry if you miss the first one, because there are a lot more fish in the sea!”

DATING

Amaga — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:44:42 +0000

Teenage and college life implies a very important problem for teens and students, a problem that leads to the second most important decision in one’s life-choosing a life partner to marry. This dating and marriage process is probably on the first place for everyone, that’s why it is very important for teens and college students to pay more attention to it.
These are some questions concerning dating that we have received:

What do you think about teen dating? What is the most appropriate age for it? What is the way things with dating should happen? Should dating progress into something else? Should we kiss? Some people consider one shouldn’t date before going to college, others believe the contrary. What is your opinion about it?
These questions are very good ones that torture many Christian teenagers once they start getting acknowledged with dating.
But the answers to them are very hard to find, because teenagers are almost never prepared to decide important things in their lives when it comes to this. Besides, if we take a look at humanity’s history and compare our time with the past, we will come to the conclusion that our ancestors had their marriages arranged for them by somebody else in their early or late teen years. Unlike them, we are the only ones to choose whom to marry and we do it later and later with the passing of centuries.
We should admit that Bible doesn’t always answer directly all these questions. Still, it does give advice for young people, advice they should take in count when beginning dating, when choosing the one to date and when having to face different problems with it.
Be not deceived: Evil companionships corrupt good morals, (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what portion hath a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement hath a temple of God with idols? For we are a temple of the living God; even as God said, “I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people,” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. Or know ye not that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which ye have from God? And ye are not your own; for ye were bought with a price: glorify God therefore in your body, (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
These passages should teach us very important things, like: we should always avoid bad company that corrupts our good morals when coming to date someone(1 Corinthians 15:33);it is vital for us not to become “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever, which is also very important when it comes for us to choose whom to date (2 Corinthians 6:14-16); and finally, but not of the least importance, we must make all that’s in our power to “flee from fornication” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

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Dating Web Sites

Amaga — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:20:39 +0000

Statistics show that the most of the sexual encounters between two adult people, who have not seen each other before that moment, take place thanks to online dating sites. These dating web sites are nowadays the easiest and most comfortable way for people to set up sexual encounters.
The percentage of women that say they prefer getting to know men rather on a dating site than from a bar is over 76%, while the percentage of men is approximately 82%.
This means that traditional matching methods are not the same as they were some time ago, as human history shows. It’s not surprising that men have joined this new kind of mating rituals, what really is surprising is that women are now joining it too as they never did before.
In addition to this shocking detail, it is also known that over 60% of women between the ages of 18 and 24 say they have met a strange man more than 3 times during the last year, and that they have met them precisely from online dating sites. Some 10 years ago, the percentage was 200% less.
What this tells us is that it is a lot easier and more practical for MEN to find romance today in comparison with the past years. The negative has transformed into positive since then and more and more women agree now to have a casual sexual encounter than it was ever before.
Dating web sites have changed a lot the old panorama of dating. Today, it is unforgivable even for the shyest of men not having sex, because it is so much easy for women and men to find a sex partner just by entering an online dating site. It takes very little effort and “opening line” requirements!
The first way of communication between the most of the couples that access these online dating services is e-mailing and/or instant messaging, of course, after they have seen each other’s photos in the profiles. The next step would normally be talking on the phone or web cam activities (sexual and not necessarily sexual), if the internet dating service allows it.
All these mating rituals, in their turn, which is shocking indeed, don’t take more than ONE hour! It is understandable, however, because the reasons why the both of them are there are clear enough. There is no sense in wasting time to talk when the both of them are just looking for a sex partner. This is a new sexual revolution we come to face today.

Dating After Divorce

Amaga — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 05:58:00 +0000

One of the main and common reasons of divorces nowadays, whose rate are, by the way, too increased over the last fifteen years and are not decreasing yet, is and remains the failure of two people in working out their differences.
Having gone through a divorce surely implies concerns and fears about beginning another relationship. It’s, actually, natural for negative experiences to bring such consequences and be inhibiting. So, if you are too cautious and prudent about dating someone new, remember that you’re not alone and it’s a normal state of mind after what you’ve been through. There’s nothing wrong in it.
But the solution wouldn’t be not dating at all or taking refuge at a monastery. Thus, you will only do yourself harm, because later you will realize you crave for human contact. Indeed, you should have a rest from dating and reflect about your past experience and your mistakes in it, but you shouldn’t exaggerate either.
Here are some tips and advices for you to follow after having suffered a divorce and wanting to be successful in further dating. Reading these guidelines won’t make you immediately find someone to get married to, but it will improve your dating experience.

1. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage.
Usually, after sharing for years everything they have with a person, people get used to the marriage outlook and they hardly let it go once they’re separated from their ex-partner. That’s why when you begin to date someone else, you might feel that you will marry that person some day. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage, so before falling victim to this way of thinking, just remember this. That’s why, while dating, experience new things and simply have fun, don’t feel too many obligations!
2. Give yourself enough time to breathe.
Don’t move on too quickly once your marriage is over. Give yourself time to breathe and to emotionally and mentally digest your divorce. If your divorce has just been finalized it doesn’t mean you should be in the clubs that same night, looking for a new life partner. Just go out with your friends, have some fun, but don’t start searching for “that someone”.
Every person has its own specific length of time to wait before beginning a new relationship, after having gone through a divorce. So you must feel yourself the very precise moment when you are emotionally ready to date with a new person and when you are capable of handling a new relationship with someone.
3. Be sincere and open.
You might feel tempted to hide details and circumstances of your divorce from your future dates, but you shouldn’t. Don’t lie about it, just tell them what you feel easy when talking about. They should know that you have been through a marriage before, that you have divorced and that you’re moving on now. That doesn’t mean, however, that you should give out all the unnecessary details to your date or pour out your soul to someone you don’t really know yet. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find someone who has had a similar experience, someone you have a lot of common with.
4. Don’t fall into old patterns.
When you start a new date, try not to make the same old mistakes you have made with your ex. Retaining old patterns won’t lead to any good, it will only cause you problems and harm. Remember who you really are, not who you used to be with your ex-partner and show yourself to your present or future date, start a new life. In case you don’t, you will only move on from a divorce to another.
5. Leave your baggage aside.
If your ex has caused you problems and resentment, that doesn’t mean every person of the opposite sex is like him/her. Don’t pour out your anger and deceivements from your ex-partner on your dates, it will only make things worse and you will never have a healthy relationship. So just forget about the divorce and leave all your anger aside. Your date isn’t guilty for whatever has happened to you, you should start anew.
Five Indications that You Aren’t Ready to Date:
Do you have doubts in whether you have moved too fast to date after your divorce and do you think you need more time for yourself? Read these indications that you aren’t ready to date yet:
1. You still have pictures of your ex-spouse in your bedroom, and you still don’t feel like taking them from there.
2. When dating someone else, you always take your ex-partner with you.
3. It’s very hard for you to go on a date, because every time you do it, you feel emotionally weak after it.
4. Even if you’re divorced, you feel like cheating on your ex when you date someone else.
5. You try to compare your present date’s good and bad qualities with your ex-partner’s.

Older Women Dating Younger Men (Part II)

Amaga — Mon, 06 Aug 2007 04:31:31 +0000

The statistics say today that every other marriage ends in divorce, which leaves single many men and women in their 40s, 50s and 60s. If men in their 40s and up want to date only women in their 20s and 30s (which is very frequent nowadays), who should the women in their 40s and up date then? Unlike men dating younger women, women dating younger men are still considered to be “cradle robbers”. Now, is this fair? A mature man can do whatever he wants, while a mature woman “must know her age and place”. Just because a woman is mature that doesn’t mean she has to sit in a chair and knit all day long. The mature and modern woman of today doesn’t care at all about “what the neighbors might say”, she is strong and self-confident, and she perfectly knows what she’s looking for and what does her happiness consist of. So, society should get used to the idea of older women dating and marrying younger men, for older women need to be happy too and they really don’t worry about what people say when they don’t agree with their way of thinking and doing things.
But why would a young man want to date an older woman? This is a very frequent question, but it has an answer according to some younger men, that have been and are dating older women. They say that older women are much more mature and trustworthy, they are strong and independent, and they don’t need a man to take care of them. They have had more experience and they believe in themselves. Older women care less about men’s money than younger women do. They tell them straightly in the face all that they think and they don’t play mind games with men, by pretending to be someone they’re not and then, later, showing their real face. Actually, these couples of younger men and older women have always existed; it’s just that they have been kept in secret till now. Today, it’s not a secret anymore and it is to be considered a normal state of things.
When young men are dating older women, these women tell them exactly what they want and expect from them. Thus, men know pretty well where they stand and what kind of relationship they have and they know when this relationship gets too serious or not. Mature women don’t usually play games, they just don’t have time for this and this isn’t what they want. They are looking for having some fun with persons that are interested in the same things that they are. Older women don’t care about younger men that are embarrassed to be seen with women like them, of their age. They would rather be alone than date this kind of young men, for whom the age difference is so important. And then, they easily move on, looking more on for somebody who doesn’t worry about the age difference.
Many people think that the only possible reason of a younger man dating an older woman is sack but this is only a half of the answer. Yes, women reach their sex maturity in their 30s and 40s and they are less inhibited during sex at this age. They know very well what they like and what they don’t and they’re always ready to try new things. Mature women are also looking a lot better today than they used to years ago, they pay a lot more attention to their bodies. And even if their bodies don’t look like 20-years old girls bodies, their younger daters claim that their experience is a lot more than that and supplies for it.
The most of mature women nowadays are not planning to make other families, and to have more babies, because they have spent their youth by doing it. But there are, of course, other cases of older women who haven’t had their families yet and these women may be eager to start a family. The perfect partner for her would be a young man, whose career isn’t so important for him and who would agree to stay at home and look after the kids. Another reason of young men dating older women is that they have a lot more things to discuss about and their conversations are a lot more interesting and fun. Older girlfriends are also not afraid of trying new things, going to new places. They are more experienced and have a lot of great things to share. Anyway, is the reason what it may be, (sometimes it may even be a combination of many reasons), it’s only the choice of young men to date an older woman or not. Why should age be an obstacle in the way of the happiness of two people, when they find many things in common and when they like each other? Life is complicated well enough and age shouldn’t be an inconvenient for people who just want to be happy and that’s all.

Read more about Older Women Dating Younger Men:
Older Women Dating Younger Men (Part I)
Dating an Older Woman
7 Tips for Dating Older Woman

Older Women Dating Younger Men (Part I)

Amaga — Thu, 02 Aug 2007 01:56:54 +0000

A long time ago, men used to date women that were younger than them, often even half their age. Today its women who date men younger than them, sometimes even of the ages of their sons. This is already a common state of things and it happened thanks to some great dating tips for women that the roles of the two sexes have changed.
It is very unfair to admit men dating younger women and to repel women dating younger men. Why can’t the women do what men have been doing for years and which was considered to be common and normal for them?
There isn’t any difference in that and it is time for women to stop thinking about what the rest of the people think about their relationships. It’s time for women to be happy in their turn and here are a lot of reasons to do it:

Fun and Excitement – A Little Get Up and Go
After a woman has finally raised her children and after having given up a lot of interesting things, such as parties, trips and new activities, she needs to have a life of her own. She would rather choose to go looking for an adventure than sit next to a man of her age in front of the TV, watching David Letterman!
No, no, we don’t have anything against David Letterman, but a woman feels the need to go out, to dress up appropriately and feel to be a woman, so when she’ll have to choose between an old man resting at home and a younger man that usually goes out on Saturday night, she will choose the second one. Of course, there are also exceptions, but the most of women would prefer a nice, exciting adventure.
Responsibilities and Baggage
The most important advantage in dating younger men is that they don’t have as many responsibilities and problems as the older men do. These problems and responsibilities include financial support for their children, ex-wives and a lot more of other excess past baggage. That’s why older men won’t want to take on their shoulders any more responsibilities for they are hardly moving on with their own. Younger men usually are not yet introduced to these chapters of their lives, so when having to choose between a younger and an older man a woman will surely want to choose the younger one, for he is free of problems.
There are, of course, young men with a past baggage of problems too, but these problems are usually not as big as an older man’s. Still, there are a lot of young men in this world with no baggage at all!
Better Sex
This may sound rude and exaggerated to the most of mature men, and they may even feel insulted by it, but this is the way the things are going. Once the years pass, a man begins to lose his forces, his energy and even desire, which he has had when being young. Usually younger men are more interested in sex than older men are, and, vice versa, older women are more interested in sex than younger women are. Once women mature, they get more stable and self-confident, who makes them “feel sexy”. This truth might create diversions and opposite opinions, but it still remains the truth.
The main difference between younger and older men is that younger men usually have this willingness to experiment and the indifference about what other people say. Younger men also don’t pay so much attention to the body, so even when you are worried about your few extra pounds, it doesn’t matter, because sex is all that matters to them!

Dating tips for women help, but you will need to find the right one for you. So, after all that has been said above, maybe it’s time for you to look for a younger man!

Read more about Older Women Dating Younger Men:
Dating an Older Woman
7 Tips for Dating Older Woman

Warning Signs That a Relationship Is Ending.

Amaga — Sun, 04 Mar 2007 11:11:27 +0000

While no one really wants to hear this news, especially the person it is happening to, it is important to know how to tell that your relationship could potentially be ending. When you are dating, you just know that things are alright if you know him or her like the back of your hand. A few starting signs that may be bad news for your relationship could be the dreaded “him” or “her” never calling you sign. This doesn’t naturally mean that the relationship is ending because there are numerous other signs that have to associate with this sign, but it can be a starting sign. If you the guy or girl are used to the other person calling you and you find that you are calling more than normally then that can be pretty bad. If you find that your partner is being pretty secretive, for instance, if someone calls your partner and he or she doesn’t let you know who they were talking to, this can mean your partner is losing interest in you. Probably the most popular starting sign that triggers the relationship coming to a halt is when your partner would rather hang out with their friends more than you. If you are in love, you normally find time for each other and make time with your friends also, not more than the other.

10 Warning Signs that Your Relationship Is Ending

A couple of more serious signs that can mean your relationship is going downhill include being more critical of your partner and I mean seriously picking on him or her. When a person is highly critical of someone, they can really hurt someone’s feelings and this could definitely be a sign that the relationship is failing, but it isn’t always true. If your friends begin to ask you (the person who is losing the one he or she loves) whether or not everything is alright then you can have a pretty large problem on hand. Your friends are always there for you and they usually notice differences in your personality and the way you act amongst them, take this advice seriously because it can help you if something serious does happen.

While these are major warning signs that a relationship can potentially become unstable and come to an end, it doesn’t mean that it naturally is going to. Warning signs are what I just stated, signs, so don’t take it to heart just because I named the major warning signs. Be sure you try and talk to your partner if you sense something is wrong, if he or she continues to ignore you or fades away then I am afraid it isn’t too great for you. I hope this information helps because it really bites when you lose someone you care about dearly.

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