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Speed Dating Tips for Women (PART II)

admin — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 07:30:59 +0000

Beware of the Signals You’re Giving
Flirting is one of the best, and in the same time, one of the most dangerous things. Know how to differentiate a friendly flirt from a sexual one. If you don’t want anything serious with the man in case, if you just want to meet new people, make sure you give out clear signals, so that he doesn’t misunderstand you in interpreting your flirting signals.
Beware of your words and if you don’t know what to say, better keep silence than say something wrong. And, more of all, don’t just get up and leave! (?!)
Well, imagine yourself something like this (actually, the following has really happened): A man who was a Russian immigrant, with a Philosophy Doctor degree, in spite of this couldn’t find a good job for him, so in the meantime he worked as a cab driver. During his speed date with a woman, she had the worst idea of all to ask him where he worked, and after hearing his answer, she had an even worse idea that that one to get up and go to sit at the bar. It was a clear insult and it was a very wrong thing to do in the circumstances. Even if you find out that the people you have set a date with are not right for you, respect them and make them understand this, they are human beings just as you are!

Dressing Rules
Before wearing any kind of outfit, ask yourself two simple questions: “Would my mother wear this?” and “Would my daughter wear this?”. If the answers are positive, do NOT put it on. The same comes if you have doubts of whether what you’re wearing doesn’t make you look ridiculous-once you have doubts, they probably are based upon something.
These are some rules of the dress code for a speed date:
1. Be very careful in picking up the right outfit for you. If you over dress, you will for sure feel ridiculous and uncomfortable during all your date. This isn’t what you want, is it? Don’t fall into extremes, like ball dresses or sporty pants, better choose a cocktail dress or some stylish smart-casual jeans combined with something alike.
2. Wear clothes that fit you-say no to smaller sizes, that squeeze you like a fish in a tin, it’s bad for your health, and say no to larger sizes too, they will make you look like a sail ship.
3. Now, the shoes. Of course, every normal woman would tend to wear the highest heels she has in order to look the sexiest of all. It’s quite well if you’re taking a cab or take your own car, but think twice before wearing such shoes if you’re taking public transport or, even worse, if you’ll have to walk on feet for a long distance. In these situations, better take some comfortable shoes. After all, you’re going to a date, think of how much you will enjoy it if all you will do is think about the way your feet hurt.
4. The best way to feel sexy is to wear sexy underwear. It’s as simple as that and it’s quite efficient too.
5. Your makeup should be as natural as possible-it should stress all your good parts and not the contrary. Besides, it should be adequate for the occasion and for the time of the day. One of the worst mistakes would be coming to the date with a neck and a face both different in colors. Remember that your aim is to make him think your beauty is natural and not achieved.

Speed Dating Tips for Women (PART I)

admin — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 07:04:15 +0000

Be Adequate
If the place where you have the date is a sophisticated restaurant, with high quality service and the best sorts of food and drinks, make sure you are one with this kind of environment. That is, dress up appropriately for the occasion, look at your best and behave yourself at your best too. If you have problems with dressing for this kind of occasions, click here to see details and advices, and have some guiding for the dressing code.
Be Positive
Positive people always attract everyone for positive energy brings only positive one in turn. So if you want to make a first and good impression, don’t even think of being angry or sad-a positive attitude will do everything for you.
Don’t Give Too Much Personal Information
One of the best, safest, fastest and most fun methods of meeting singles is speed dating. You can keep it that way as long as you don’t give too many personal details, that is your telephone number, last name, email address and so on. Just make sure you leave a sign in front of his nickname in your Fast Impressions folder and if he does the same thing with you, it means you both have an interest in each other and, thus, you will be able to meet again.
Be Yourself
People who pretend to be someone they’re not, who play certain roles as if they were on a theatre scene are not liked by any society. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are, otherwise it means you have some problems with your self-confidence, and you’ll have to solve them before going on. There is a lot of information about it, a lot of books and different courses.
Replace The Question “What Do You Do?” with “What Do You Enjoy Doing?”
Usually the question of “What do you do for a living?” spoils all, a thing related both for women and men (men, in this situation, generally think you want to check how rich they are). Besides, not everyone likes the work he’s doing and not everyone’s proud of it. Instead of this question, why not ask, “What do you enjoy doing?”
Listen to Your Conversation Partner
Almost all people (with little exceptions) like talking about themselves, so showing an interest in them is the best thing you can do. Stop talking only about yourself and ask him questions by the means of which you can find out more things about the man you have a date with.
To bring an example, we’ll tell the story of a conversation of Jay Abrahams (a marketing expert) with a stranger that he met in a bar in Sydney. All he did was to introduce himself, tell the stranger what brought him to that city and then he asked a simple question. He asked the stranger what the last one was doing in Sydney.
Their “conversation” had lasted an hour and, during it, the stranger didn’t stop talking while Jay Abrahams listened to him. At last, the stranger got up to leave and told Jay he was one of the most interesting people he had ever met. Take in consideration that the only words Jay said during the whole conversation were when he introduced himself and the question he put to the stranger!
People are attracted by people that show an interest in them. The conclusion is that, in a conversation, you should LISTEN as much as possible to the person you’re talking to.

Read Speed Dating Tips for Women (PART II)

Speed Dating Tips for Men

admin — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 06:12:57 +0000

Be Yourself
Nobody likes people who pretend to be someone they’re not in reality. Leave playing different parts and roles for yourself and just be yourself, the way you are. Be content with who you are, otherwise you might have some points to work upon.
Be Adequate
If the place where you invite her is a sophisticated restaurant, with high quality service and the best sorts of food and drinks, make sure you are one with this kind of environment. That is, dress up appropriately for the occasion, look at your best and behave yourself at your best too.

Give Compliments, but Don’t Exaggerate
Giving too many compliments will spoil all the magic, so before exaggerating with that, take care of saying the right words at the right time. (That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t say compliments at all.)
Be Positive
Positive people always attract everyone for positive energy brings only positive one in turn. So if you want to make a first and good impression don’t even think of being angry or sad-a positive attitude will do everything for you.
Don’t Be a “Space Invader”
There is such a notion as “space invasion” – it’s when one gets too close to the person near him and violates this person’s own space. Some people don’t mind it, others – in contrary – get really angry at such a turn of the events. So, if you don’t know too many things about the woman you have a date with, think twice before touching her. However, a touch of the hands or over her arms won’t do much harm.
Take Care about the Conversation, If You Want to Get a Second Date
If the first date is unsuccessful, don’t wait for a second one. In order for a first date not to be the last one, make sure the conversation you have with her isn’t only about you. If you only talk about yourself and don’t even ask the poor woman in front of you about her, all your further attempts will fail.

Speed Dating Study

admin — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 05:35:03 +0000

For a long time it was stated that when you make someone understand that you like him/her, that person will automatically like you in turn. Well, it was recently discovered that this rule of reciprocal attraction needs to be rectified a little bit for romantic relationships.
The statistics claim that the more you show your romantic desires towards all the people you like, the more they tend to reject you. (Could the reason be the fact that in these cases you look too desperate and obsessed?)

And vice versa, you aren’t usually rejected when you see no other potential partners around you besides the one you desire. (Now, at least this is what calms one down.)
What has been at the base of novels and art through all the times if not the physical chemistry and romance? That’s why social psychologists and all kinds of investigators have spent their time in searching for answers and observing the speed-daters as it was a lot harder observing the romantic attraction at the beginning of a relationship.
Paul W.Eastwick, a graduate student in psychology and the main author of this study, says, ”Unselective potential romantic partners are much less successful than selective partners who show that only you are someone really special for them. Our study consists of letting our speed-daters put all this in practice with a time of only 4 minutes for every date.”
“It’s something astonishing, the way a speed-dater is able to find out in just four minutes to what point the other person likes him and even to what point the speed-dater is unique and special for that person,” Finkel said. “Now this is something we can’t find the answer to for it’s beyond our imagination.”
The experiment which was meant to uncover the mystery of the importance of the first minutes of physical attraction was set up as following: 156 participants (students) had four-minute speed dates with 9-13 persons of the opposite sex. After each date they had to complete a questionnaire where they had to mention if they were attracted physically to the persons of the opposite sex, if they liked them and to what degree.
All the participants have entered the study Web site in the following and they have mentioned which of the persons they speed-dated they would like to meet with again. The ones whose “yeses” were mutual were given each other’s contacts.
Finkel concluded that, “A romantic relationship differs of a friendship by the fact that unlike in a friendship, the “all-loving” persons may seem desperate in a romantic relationship.”
Eastwick’s addition to this was, “That is, when you want to make someone be attracted to you, you will lose if you play the unselective person.”
The final conclusion of this experiment is as it follows from the previously said, “Reciprocity in romantic relationships doesn’t need the same criteria as reciprocity in friendships. It is only acquired when the potential partner is made to understand his unique and special role in one’s life.”

A New Kind of Dating Nowadays

admin — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 21:58:56 +0000

Time has become a social problem nowadays, you often hear someone saying, “I don’t have time for this and that”. Unfortunately, this running out of time is being reflected on our personal life too. One of the solutions to this problem is “speed dating” – a new kind of dating, of which the following article will inform you.
Considering the high rate of divorces among the population and the joint between love and marriage, why reckon dating to be sound and problem less?
Let me introduce you the notion of speed dating, the one that allows one to meet up to ten new people in one single evening.
Each date lasts only seven minutes, that’s why speed dating is so different from other typical meetings of new people. Another major difference between them is that, unlike the meeting of singles in bars, for example, people who use speed dating know perfectly well their objective.

The Game Itself
So what does this game of speed dating consist of? It’s very simple. All the participants (all of them should be single) gather in a certain place, it could be a caf?r something like that. They pair up and begin their dates. The subjects of their conversations exclude their careers and home addresses.
These conversations last only seven minutes each and, at the end of them, the couples are paired differently and the next seven-minutes-dates begin.
After every date finishes, all the speed daters answer on a card to the question whether they would like to meet their date again. And if this interest is reciprocal, the organizers give the telephone numbers to the daters.
Some Words About the Origin of Speed Dating
For the first time, speed dating was organized by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo in 1999, it being based on a Jewish tradition meant to prevent the Jewish singles from marrying people of other faiths except theirs. It consisted of gatherings of young Jewish people. Next, this kind of tradition spread all over the globe.
Speed dating easily substitutes the blind dates and bar scenes, it is much more interesting and resentful.
What Are the Results of Speed Dating?
The results of these speed dates were absolutely positive for approximately half of the speed daters. Some people might say that it’s pretty boring to repeat the same quick conversations several times during the same evening, but it is considered that there also is another reason responsible for the success of the date, that is physical attraction or chemistry, you might call it.
One disadvantage of this new form of matchmaking is that seven minutes is quite a short time to get to know someone. Sometimes, people whom we reject after these seven minutes of speed dating could easily be right for us if we knew them better.
And vice versa-you might have been impressed and enraptured of someone you’ve dated for seven minutes, but after a longer time of knowing each other you realize that this Mr. or Ms.Right is not really as it seems.
In spite of this, speed dating is becoming more and more popular nowadays, achieving new and new points. Could this be a new revolution?

The Dating Scene: How to Meet Men and Women

admin — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 05:13:02 +0000

Or How to Find that Special Someone
I am probably not the only one to have heard ten thousand times male friends and relatives complaining about not finding Ms. Right to date. Ten thousand times I was tempted to ask whether they have really been actively looking for her and not just sitting around and waiting for her to appear by magic.

Don’t hurry to judge me, because this is certainly not the case with me hating all men on earth and looking for the least of mistakes to criticize them. No, this is not the case. I’ve also seen a lot of women moaning about the same thing, but my opinion is that once you want something, you can’t just stay and wait, you got to do something to reach it. So, if you want to find that special someone, get up and go for it.
Now let’s think about the best ways to find Mr. or Ms. Right. One of the most popular places for meeting both women and men are bars. There’s just one little problem about it: it works out only with those who are already used to frequently visiting bars. If you’re not used to them, then you’ll probably be nervous, because you won’t be comfortable with the place you are in and thus you will only frighten out all the possible dates. So, the chances to meet someone special are reduced to the minimum. It’s as simple as that.
There also are other places where you could meet new people, such as: concerts, movie theaters, bookstores, coffee shops and so on. It’s just a matter of you usually visiting these places. One of my friends, for example, has met his wife at a coffee shop they both liked to visit regularly; another friend of mine has met Her in a… library. There is also Jack, one of my fellows, who has met Alice, his wife now, on an online dating service. He just went online and signed up for it. Nowadays, dating online services are the easiest and most popular way of meeting someone and there are a lot of good sites to choose from (Match.com, eHarmony.com, Yahoo! Personals, Date.com and many others). Dating services have helped a lot of people and they really work out for you. First, you upload information about you, your interests, your personality, upload your photos on the site. Then, you are matched up with a man or a woman, you can communicate over the phone or email until you decide to meet that person face to face. Or you can just meet right away.
You can meet someone by another method too, that is to write an interesting and attractive ad and have it published in your local newspaper. It’s only matter of paying some money to publish it. And if you are nervous about your looks or something like that, forget it! There are a lot of people out there who are just worried about it as you are.
Now let’s think about what you could write in your ad to attract more people. This will be some personal information. Something like: “Single 25-years-old Guy. Hobbies: Working, Watching Movies and Reading Books. Doesn’t smoke.” wouldn’t work out a lot for you, believe me. Do you agree?
But what if we write another version of this ad? Something like: “Single mid 20′s Dude; Swimming Instructor; Loves Adventure Books and Movies. Doesn’t smoke.” Now, what about that? Sounds a bit more interesting, doesn’t it?
In all the cases: whether you meet that special someone through an ad in the newspaper or whether you don’t, you will still have fun and meet new people.
If you are willing to meet Ms. or Mr. Right, that could make you happy with love for the rest of your life, don’t just stay, search the world for that and take some action .Looking for a man? Go into places, where men usually are. Looking for a woman? Go to social places women usually visit.
And a last word: if something goes wrong, remember the saying, “Don’t worry if you miss the first one, because there are a lot more fish in the sea!”

DATING

admin — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 20:44:42 +0000

Teenage and college life implies a very important problem for teens and students, a problem that leads to the second most important decision in one’s life-choosing a life partner to marry. This dating and marriage process is probably on the first place for everyone, that’s why it is very important for teens and college students to pay more attention to it.
These are some questions concerning dating that we have received:

What do you think about teen dating? What is the most appropriate age for it? What is the way things with dating should happen? Should dating progress into something else? Should we kiss? Some people consider one shouldn’t date before going to college, others believe the contrary. What is your opinion about it?
These questions are very good ones that torture many Christian teenagers once they start getting acknowledged with dating.
But the answers to them are very hard to find, because teenagers are almost never prepared to decide important things in their lives when it comes to this. Besides, if we take a look at humanity’s history and compare our time with the past, we will come to the conclusion that our ancestors had their marriages arranged for them by somebody else in their early or late teen years. Unlike them, we are the only ones to choose whom to marry and we do it later and later with the passing of centuries.
We should admit that Bible doesn’t always answer directly all these questions. Still, it does give advice for young people, advice they should take in count when beginning dating, when choosing the one to date and when having to face different problems with it.
Be not deceived: Evil companionships corrupt good morals, (1 Corinthians 15:33).
Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? Or what portion hath a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement hath a temple of God with idols? For we are a temple of the living God; even as God said, “I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people,” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16).
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. Or know ye not that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which ye have from God? And ye are not your own; for ye were bought with a price: glorify God therefore in your body, (1 Corinthians 6:18-20).
These passages should teach us very important things, like: we should always avoid bad company that corrupts our good morals when coming to date someone(1 Corinthians 15:33);it is vital for us not to become “unequally yoked” with an unbeliever, which is also very important when it comes for us to choose whom to date (2 Corinthians 6:14-16); and finally, but not of the least importance, we must make all that’s in our power to “flee from fornication” (1 Corinthians 6:18).

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Dating Web Sites

admin — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:20:39 +0000

Statistics show that the most of the sexual encounters between two adult people, who have not seen each other before that moment, take place thanks to online dating sites. These dating web sites are nowadays the easiest and most comfortable way for people to set up sexual encounters.
The percentage of women that say they prefer getting to know men rather on a dating site than from a bar is over 76%, while the percentage of men is approximately 82%.
This means that traditional matching methods are not the same as they were some time ago, as human history shows. It’s not surprising that men have joined this new kind of mating rituals, what really is surprising is that women are now joining it too as they never did before.
In addition to this shocking detail, it is also known that over 60% of women between the ages of 18 and 24 say they have met a strange man more than 3 times during the last year, and that they have met them precisely from online dating sites. Some 10 years ago, the percentage was 200% less.
What this tells us is that it is a lot easier and more practical for MEN to find romance today in comparison with the past years. The negative has transformed into positive since then and more and more women agree now to have a casual sexual encounter than it was ever before.
Dating web sites have changed a lot the old panorama of dating. Today, it is unforgivable even for the shyest of men not having sex, because it is so much easy for women and men to find a sex partner just by entering an online dating site. It takes very little effort and “opening line” requirements!
The first way of communication between the most of the couples that access these online dating services is e-mailing and/or instant messaging, of course, after they have seen each other’s photos in the profiles. The next step would normally be talking on the phone or web cam activities (sexual and not necessarily sexual), if the internet dating service allows it.
All these mating rituals, in their turn, which is shocking indeed, don’t take more than ONE hour! It is understandable, however, because the reasons why the both of them are there are clear enough. There is no sense in wasting time to talk when the both of them are just looking for a sex partner. This is a new sexual revolution we come to face today.

Dating After Divorce

admin — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 05:58:00 +0000

One of the main and common reasons of divorces nowadays, whose rate are, by the way, too increased over the last fifteen years and are not decreasing yet, is and remains the failure of two people in working out their differences.
Having gone through a divorce surely implies concerns and fears about beginning another relationship. It’s, actually, natural for negative experiences to bring such consequences and be inhibiting. So, if you are too cautious and prudent about dating someone new, remember that you’re not alone and it’s a normal state of mind after what you’ve been through. There’s nothing wrong in it.
But the solution wouldn’t be not dating at all or taking refuge at a monastery. Thus, you will only do yourself harm, because later you will realize you crave for human contact. Indeed, you should have a rest from dating and reflect about your past experience and your mistakes in it, but you shouldn’t exaggerate either.
Here are some tips and advices for you to follow after having suffered a divorce and wanting to be successful in further dating. Reading these guidelines won’t make you immediately find someone to get married to, but it will improve your dating experience.

1. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage.
Usually, after sharing for years everything they have with a person, people get used to the marriage outlook and they hardly let it go once they’re separated from their ex-partner. That’s why when you begin to date someone else, you might feel that you will marry that person some day. A date doesn’t necessarily imply a marriage, so before falling victim to this way of thinking, just remember this. That’s why, while dating, experience new things and simply have fun, don’t feel too many obligations!
2. Give yourself enough time to breathe.
Don’t move on too quickly once your marriage is over. Give yourself time to breathe and to emotionally and mentally digest your divorce. If your divorce has just been finalized it doesn’t mean you should be in the clubs that same night, looking for a new life partner. Just go out with your friends, have some fun, but don’t start searching for “that someone”.
Every person has its own specific length of time to wait before beginning a new relationship, after having gone through a divorce. So you must feel yourself the very precise moment when you are emotionally ready to date with a new person and when you are capable of handling a new relationship with someone.
3. Be sincere and open.
You might feel tempted to hide details and circumstances of your divorce from your future dates, but you shouldn’t. Don’t lie about it, just tell them what you feel easy when talking about. They should know that you have been through a marriage before, that you have divorced and that you’re moving on now. That doesn’t mean, however, that you should give out all the unnecessary details to your date or pour out your soul to someone you don’t really know yet. Who knows? Maybe you’ll find someone who has had a similar experience, someone you have a lot of common with.
4. Don’t fall into old patterns.
When you start a new date, try not to make the same old mistakes you have made with your ex. Retaining old patterns won’t lead to any good, it will only cause you problems and harm. Remember who you really are, not who you used to be with your ex-partner and show yourself to your present or future date, start a new life. In case you don’t, you will only move on from a divorce to another.
5. Leave your baggage aside.
If your ex has caused you problems and resentment, that doesn’t mean every person of the opposite sex is like him/her. Don’t pour out your anger and deceivements from your ex-partner on your dates, it will only make things worse and you will never have a healthy relationship. So just forget about the divorce and leave all your anger aside. Your date isn’t guilty for whatever has happened to you, you should start anew.
Five Indications that You Aren’t Ready to Date:
Do you have doubts in whether you have moved too fast to date after your divorce and do you think you need more time for yourself? Read these indications that you aren’t ready to date yet:
1. You still have pictures of your ex-spouse in your bedroom, and you still don’t feel like taking them from there.
2. When dating someone else, you always take your ex-partner with you.
3. It’s very hard for you to go on a date, because every time you do it, you feel emotionally weak after it.
4. Even if you’re divorced, you feel like cheating on your ex when you date someone else.
5. You try to compare your present date’s good and bad qualities with your ex-partner’s.

Best Online Dating Service

admin — Thu, 16 Aug 2007 05:27:58 +0000

A group of willing young men, whose aim was to find a woman for a sexual relationship in only two hours, were made a survey in order to find the best online dating service.
There were 3 groups of men from 18 to 40 years old; each group consisted of 10 men. Another question was also if older men had any chances on online dating sites. The result was surprising: they even had more chances than the others…

I simply ignored the services that “hadn’t passed the exam” and decided to make a report upon the service that was chosen to be the best one. The name of this service is issued in my blog and it says everything about it. It is as follows at: http://www.datingsites2.com
This service had beaten out the rest of the services with a more than 60% success rate. It was completely astonishing since the groups of men didn’t differ very much by financial situation or looks. That’s why I expected the results to be closer and alike, and I couldn’t decide which of the groups would be more successful just by looking at them.
And still, there was a group that won and won with a great difference of results. As it was said before, the men were looking forward having a meeting with a potential female sex partner two hours later and having sex with her any time that same night.
7 of the 10 men in the winning group (group C) were successful. Only 3 men were successful in group A, and only 4 men had success that night in group B. All these men had found sex partners within 2 hours.
That’s why it was clear that the winner was group C with its 7 of the 10 successful men. There was obviously a cause for this; there was something about those men that made them better than the others. If you are willing to see the winning dating site, you are invited to see it at Best Online Dating Service.
The other 3 men who had NO success in finding online female sex partners for that same night still found women interested in it, but busy that night. The same happened with other members from the other groups that lost too, but our aim was to have a purely scientific experiment.
The conclusion is that the best online dating service is the one that satisfies men and there is no doubt about it. If you’re interested in finding out which is the best dating site, please visit Best Online Dating Service.