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The Dating Scene: How to Meet Men and Women

admin — Tue, 18 Sep 2007 05:13:02 +0000

Or How to Find that Special Someone
I am probably not the only one to have heard ten thousand times male friends and relatives complaining about not finding Ms. Right to date. Ten thousand times I was tempted to ask whether they have really been actively looking for her and not just sitting around and waiting for her to appear by magic.

Don’t hurry to judge me, because this is certainly not the case with me hating all men on earth and looking for the least of mistakes to criticize them. No, this is not the case. I’ve also seen a lot of women moaning about the same thing, but my opinion is that once you want something, you can’t just stay and wait, you got to do something to reach it. So, if you want to find that special someone, get up and go for it.
Now let’s think about the best ways to find Mr. or Ms. Right. One of the most popular places for meeting both women and men are bars. There’s just one little problem about it: it works out only with those who are already used to frequently visiting bars. If you’re not used to them, then you’ll probably be nervous, because you won’t be comfortable with the place you are in and thus you will only frighten out all the possible dates. So, the chances to meet someone special are reduced to the minimum. It’s as simple as that.
There also are other places where you could meet new people, such as: concerts, movie theaters, bookstores, coffee shops and so on. It’s just a matter of you usually visiting these places. One of my friends, for example, has met his wife at a coffee shop they both liked to visit regularly; another friend of mine has met Her in a… library. There is also Jack, one of my fellows, who has met Alice, his wife now, on an online dating service. He just went online and signed up for it. Nowadays, dating online services are the easiest and most popular way of meeting someone and there are a lot of good sites to choose from (Match.com, eHarmony.com, Yahoo! Personals, Date.com and many others). Dating services have helped a lot of people and they really work out for you. First, you upload information about you, your interests, your personality, upload your photos on the site. Then, you are matched up with a man or a woman, you can communicate over the phone or email until you decide to meet that person face to face. Or you can just meet right away.
You can meet someone by another method too, that is to write an interesting and attractive ad and have it published in your local newspaper. It’s only matter of paying some money to publish it. And if you are nervous about your looks or something like that, forget it! There are a lot of people out there who are just worried about it as you are.
Now let’s think about what you could write in your ad to attract more people. This will be some personal information. Something like: “Single 25-years-old Guy. Hobbies: Working, Watching Movies and Reading Books. Doesn’t smoke.” wouldn’t work out a lot for you, believe me. Do you agree?
But what if we write another version of this ad? Something like: “Single mid 20′s Dude; Swimming Instructor; Loves Adventure Books and Movies. Doesn’t smoke.” Now, what about that? Sounds a bit more interesting, doesn’t it?
In all the cases: whether you meet that special someone through an ad in the newspaper or whether you don’t, you will still have fun and meet new people.
If you are willing to meet Ms. or Mr. Right, that could make you happy with love for the rest of your life, don’t just stay, search the world for that and take some action .Looking for a man? Go into places, where men usually are. Looking for a woman? Go to social places women usually visit.
And a last word: if something goes wrong, remember the saying, “Don’t worry if you miss the first one, because there are a lot more fish in the sea!”

Internet Dating Inevitabilities

admin — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 05:40:19 +0000

Who said it would never happen to you? In case it still didn’t…
There are married couples who have met on an Internet dating site and who have lived happily ever after, and there are married couples who have met each other in school and who have divorced a few months later after their marriage. It reminds me of one of my favorite films and especially of a phrase from this film, something like, “When marrying someone, we should know as little as possible about his defects, because they appear quite soon anyway. That is why in a marriage, being happy is a matter of good luck and fate.” Internet dating sites must be using this tip right along.

I wonder if you have ever thought about it or, at least, if you’re ever going to think about it. Maybe you have, maybe not. These are only my own observations and it’s only my life experience here. Anyway, these are some odd things I have noticed, things I’d really like to share with you:
1. Before building our profile, we can never know how talented we are and what hobbies and interests we have. (I have discovered my passion for sports and reading.)
2. On the Internet, a lot of new photos have actually been taken years BEFORE. (I won’t deny I did the same thing, but I still do look like that)
3. You may have a lot of fun with Internet dating, but you won’t win a lot from it. There are more chances for you to lose than to win.
4. We are actually being so naive in thinking people on the Internet always tell the truth about their life, habits, weight, height and so on. Just because it’s on the Internet, it doesn’t mean it must be true. (All that is being said on TV must be also true then…)
5. On the Internet, everyone will try to make a beauty out of himself/herself or pretend being someone who he/she isn’t. (Don’t be surprised then to see a Minnie Mouse turn into a Minnie Driver.)
6. Before even meeting those virtual strangers, they already know all personal details of our life stories. (Who cares about inhibitions?)
7. When meeting face-to-face the virtual stranger you have discovered chemistry with on the Internet, this chemistry may either disappear like smoke in the wind or catch fire. (And, I admit it, I really do believe in chemistry.)
8. On the Internet, usually men’s height is 2-5 inches bigger than it really is, so is with women’s miraculously 10-20 pounds less than usual weight. (25 pounds in my case.)
9. If it happens so that “you don’t have success at first”, Internet dating will teach you to “try it again and again”. (That doesn’t mean being too insistent is bad, however.)
10. Why pay these extra membership fees for seeing a lot of possible “partners” and, in the end, getting disappointed about them? (When we used to get the same results for free…)
If none of these things has ever happened to you when dating online, then it must be someone else who has been done this by you.

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Dating Web Sites

admin — Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:20:39 +0000

Statistics show that the most of the sexual encounters between two adult people, who have not seen each other before that moment, take place thanks to online dating sites. These dating web sites are nowadays the easiest and most comfortable way for people to set up sexual encounters.
The percentage of women that say they prefer getting to know men rather on a dating site than from a bar is over 76%, while the percentage of men is approximately 82%.
This means that traditional matching methods are not the same as they were some time ago, as human history shows. It’s not surprising that men have joined this new kind of mating rituals, what really is surprising is that women are now joining it too as they never did before.
In addition to this shocking detail, it is also known that over 60% of women between the ages of 18 and 24 say they have met a strange man more than 3 times during the last year, and that they have met them precisely from online dating sites. Some 10 years ago, the percentage was 200% less.
What this tells us is that it is a lot easier and more practical for MEN to find romance today in comparison with the past years. The negative has transformed into positive since then and more and more women agree now to have a casual sexual encounter than it was ever before.
Dating web sites have changed a lot the old panorama of dating. Today, it is unforgivable even for the shyest of men not having sex, because it is so much easy for women and men to find a sex partner just by entering an online dating site. It takes very little effort and “opening line” requirements!
The first way of communication between the most of the couples that access these online dating services is e-mailing and/or instant messaging, of course, after they have seen each other’s photos in the profiles. The next step would normally be talking on the phone or web cam activities (sexual and not necessarily sexual), if the internet dating service allows it.
All these mating rituals, in their turn, which is shocking indeed, don’t take more than ONE hour! It is understandable, however, because the reasons why the both of them are there are clear enough. There is no sense in wasting time to talk when the both of them are just looking for a sex partner. This is a new sexual revolution we come to face today.

What is Online Dating

admin — Tue, 14 Aug 2007 05:21:39 +0000

One of the most spread ways of meeting new people nowadays, especially in UK, is online dating. It represents an online club, whose members are usually single people, looking forward meeting new ones. Online dating has a lot of advantages, for you can choose your own time and meet whoever you like on this kind of sites.
If you want to join an online dating site, there is something you must do first:
- You should create your own profile online, where you would mention your age, preferences, hobbies, and so on.
- After this, you can upload your photo, if you want people to see your face, but this step is not compulsory.
After creating your profile, you can begin looking for members of the site in your area or just members you have something in common with, and you can send them messages.
One of the many advantages of online dating sites is their privacy and confidentiality-you are not obliged to give away any personal details if you don’t want to. Besides, you dispose yourself about your free time and you communicate with people only as you like!

Is it for me?
Once they find out about online dating, single people usually have two main ways of thinking:
“Why not, do I have anything to lose with it?” or “No way, I’m not that desperate!”
Why Not
People who think like this understand all the advantages of online dating and they don’t see anything bad in it. They simply realize that it’s just another way of meeting new people from your area, with the same preferences as you have and with whom you can contact whenever you want.
No Way!
People who think “No way” to online dating have certain stereotypes of the members of such sites, stereotypes they can’t get rid of. They consider this kind of people not normal, bored (or boring), unsociable, unsure, married and so on, with all the possible defects in the world.
Well, things have changed a lot since the first online dating sites have appeared and it’s important to know that there are all kinds of people, of all the ages, professions and occupations, races attending these sites. So, the most of the people have the “Why not” attitude towards online dating, for they want to enlarge their horizons and knowledge. One of the countries most developed in this aspect is UK. There is absolutely no problem nowadays to find a site alike, which could suit all your needs, it’s just a question of choosing the right one for you. Only then you will find out whether online dating is a good thing or not.

Advice for Online Dating

admin — Thu, 26 Jul 2007 19:20:19 +0000

The world of online dating is quickly and steadily spreading nowadays. The main form of contact between the daters is made by the means of the messaging service on the dating site. That’s why we should be aware of some simple indications that would help us to make our online dating experience unforgettable.

Here they are:
Messaging Other Singles Online
If you have found a single with whom you would like to make a contact online, you should know how to make the first impression of you the right one, because once you miss your chance it is possible for you never to have another one alike. So be attentive with what you say and how you say it!

Be Concise – Your messages shouldn’t look like novels, so try to write less and write the right words.
Be Clear – If you don’t want any misinterpretations between you, try to be as clear as possible when writing the messages in order for your words to be interpreted in the right way.
Keep Momentum – After making your first contact with the respective person, it’s very important for you to lead on a nice conversation, so keep asking as many questions as possible. Who knows how many things in common of the both of you can find out?
Ask Questions – If you want the recipient to have a stimulus to write back to you then you should ask him/her questions before signing off. Besides, these questions will be a subject more to talk about.
Be Friendly and Polite – If your aim is not to scare the recipient, try to avoid bad jokes, controversial discussions and excessive swearing. All these will only worsen your conversation.
Be Positive – Positive people usually are the ones that attract the most, so don’t talk about all that’s negative in your life, including your past unpleasant relationships. Depression and negativity never sound very appealing.

Use Technology to Connect, Not Disconnect!

admin — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 05:58:22 +0000

Nowadays we live in a high technologically advanced world. Technology helps us to save a lot of time, to make communication much easier, to hear a lot of world news just staying in front of our computer or TV, without exiting our houses. Maybe we don’t realize it, but technology has a big role in our lives, just try to imagine a day without electricity: no light, no TV, no computer, no machine working in the house, it seems to be terrible, isn’t so? Nowadays we can make the acquaintance of people from other countries, seeing each other through webcams, without visiting that country, and it’s much easier to make friends through communication technology than to approach a foreigner on the street and ask his/her name. These technologies became usual for us, but unthinkable for our forefathers.
Although it seems very attractive, interesting, and useful, it has some disadvantages. For example people may get used to chatting and forget about real, natural relationships, person-to-person interaction which has a very important role in our life: touching, feeling each other, making families- the foundation of our society. We shouldn’t abuse with the technology, otherwise we’ll live in a virtual world, making virtual love and forgetting about our destination on the Earth. That’s why we recommend you to find a balance between high-tech chatting and good old fashioned one-to-one communication. This balance helps us to make strong and lasting relationships with our lovers, friends or family.
There you can find three ways of using efficiently communication technology to connect with new people or just to stay in touch with your old friends. But we’ll also try to warn you about the risk of the abuse of technology. Don’t forget about life contact!

Use Technology to Bring You Closer Together

1) Email Every Day
Keeping in touch every day will bring a big advantage for the couple because they will know that their relationship is still alive, and it’s very strong. It doesn’t take much time to write some lines to the person you are thinking about. It’s a great pleasure to receive almost every day some lovely words from the person you value or even love. A little time and a great pleasure! Isn’t it wonderful? Sometimes you will not have an immediate response, but you shouldn’t worry, maybe the person was busy at that moment or he/she wants to lengthen the suspense because it makes the relation stronger and lasting.

2) Make use of a Web Cam
To feel closer to the person you are talking to on the Internet, you should acquire a web cam. In this situation you will be able to see each other’s facial expressions, the reactions to the words. If combining an Internet phone service and a web cam you will get a better connection with the person you are talking to, it’s like sitting face-to-face, but unfortunately without the possibility to touch each other. Although it brings a lot of advantages, this is a great pleasure to see your girlfriend or your boyfriend smiling, or just reacting to your words when to you spend time far apart. A web cam adds a lot of advantages to phone calling. When you just get acquainted with a new person on the Internet you can see whether you like him/her or not and make up your mind about the future relationships.

3) Take Full Advantage of Your Mobile Phone
The technology has developed a lot and the mobile phones nowadays aren’t just simple phones to make a voice connection. The majority of them have a lot of functions beside this, such as sms, mms, Internet, so you can take full advantage of them. You can either write a short text message or send a picture of yours, or send a song, a video. Nowadays you can check your email using a mobile telephone, don’t forget about it, and make use of each possibility that may connect you and make your relationship stronger. Of course you shouldn’t forget about the traditional destination of a telephone: call your lover from time to time.

*Warning
Don’t abuse with technological advantages, you should keep in your mind that face-to-face interaction will never be replaced by emailing, online chatting, even video scenes. The best way to show your affection is real contact. Only in this manner you can share your tenderness, your gentleness. Use technology as an addition to the relationship, not as a substitute.

Added Bonus – The Snail Mail!
Maybe you have never thought about it, but it’s your chance to show additional attention to the person you love. It will be an unexpected surprise and you will make a strong impression. You can either send a letter or a card with some special meaning. The email will note have such a strong effect as the simple letter because it has become too common.

How to improve your online dating profile?

admin — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 23:03:04 +0000

Match.com, Matchmaker.com, eHarmony.com, they are all popular online dating services. What makes them so popular? Well, people are interested in getting to know someone online mainly because it’s an easier way to talk to someone, especially via an email or instant messaging program. When you visit one of these dating websites and you read the ways you can improve your online dating profile, they mainly tell you that many girls or guys respond more to emails when a person has a photo along with their profile and that is very true in a way. A serious person will read your entire profile and when they email you, they will include a bunch of the information you posted in your profile. This will show you that they actually spent the time to read your profile to learn more about you, rather than just look at your photo.
There are many ways that you can tell if a person is seriously looking for a relationship or just intimacy. Let’s go into the rules of how you can create a perfect dating profile.

Since you will be flaunting out information about you like its water, it’s important that you have some sort of format to go along with it. Like a school essay, you should focus on a beginning, middle and an end. This will allow the reader to find out the information about you a lot easier than just posting random things about yourself all over the place. You can start your online profile by adding a simple Hi, my name is… The internet is home to a lot of websites, so I am sure you can find one that will show you how to start an essay or online profile in that matter. Making a long story short, you basically want to include as much information as possible without boring the person you are trying to impress. Make the person interested but not aggravated while they are trying to learn about you, tell them what they want to hear but not to the point where they are going to be pulling their hair out. If you can pull this off, you will have no problems getting someone. Remember that physical attraction is very important, but people want someone who s intelligent and can write a simple online profile. Good luck with your relationship journey.